We all want better sex, don’t we? If you don’t, then you’re one of the very lucky few women who are completely sexually satisfied. That’s not to suggest that the vast majority are unfulfilled and deprived of sexual enjoyment. Quite the contrary, in modern society, women’s sexual needs are, for the first time, being taken seriously. However, many of us still yearn for that little extra something. Here are 5 simple and effective ways to put a bit of extra “Ooh la la” in your sex life.
1. Think Sexy Thoughts Throughout the Day
You’ll be amazed by how much a little anticipation can increase your sexual pleasure. The truth is, when it comes to orgasm, and sexual enjoyment in general, we are, in fact, incredibly simple: the more aroused we are the more pleasure we’ll experience. For any men who happen to have stumbled across this, that really is the only rule you need to remember. One of the best ways to build excitement, is to explore some of your favorite sexual fantasizes. It’s also a great idea to flirt with your lover, either by sending naughty text message, emails or leaving a sexy hand-written note for him to find.
2. Experiment With Different Positions
I’m not suggesting that you need to become dangerously adventurous or athletic with your sexual encounters. However, it is a great idea to try as many positions as you’re comfortable with. This will be exciting, both for you and him, as it spices things up. In addition, it will allow you to assess the varying pleasure you receive from different angles of penetration.
3. Linger Over Foreplay
Now, I would be willing to bet that there are an infinitesimally small number of women who would complain that they’re getting too much foreplay. Foreplay is all about arousal, and as we know, arousal is the key to a woman’s pleasure. The question is how to encourage your lover to linger over foreplay. Well, the answer is to ensure that he’s getting a lot of enjoyment from it, too. So, begin my giving him a long luxurious massage, while exploring his body with your hands (and maybe your mouth). In most cases, your lover will want to reciprocate this affection.
4. Don’t be Afraid to Touch Yourself
Unfortunately, many women shy away from self-stimulation during intercourse, believing that it is against sexual etiquette. However, these ladies are depriving themselves of some serious pleasure, and possibly even the release of orgasm. Never be shy about masturbation during intercourse.
5. Tell Your Lover What You Want From Him
It is the simplest, but most underused piece of advice. For some bizarre reason, many women think it is not their place to “tell” their lovers what they want. Instead, they believe that it’s the man’s job to either know, or work out, how best to pleasure her. My advice, never assume that he knows how to please you. All women are different, so even if he’s an experienced lover, he probably won’t know what turns you on most. Talking to your lover will not only guide him in the right direction, but if the conversation is framed correctly, it can be an incredibly sexy overture.
There are, of course, many other ways to increase your sexual pleasure, but these 5 tips will provide a dramatic improvement to your enjoyment.